Do Bad Guys Get the Girl ?

If we are to believe the movies, the ruthless tough guy, Mr. Bad Boy, always gets the girl !! If we remember the bad guys at school and college with the best looking babes it appears that the movies could be right. The best looking girls always seem to love the bad guys. Maybe because the best looking guys always became the bad guys ? Everywhere we tend to see bad guys and nice girls, we see fools and meatheads with the girls of our fantasies. In the mall we see our flaxen haired goddesses with America's Most Wanted. Is it nature at work, is it us, what is going wrong? You see men are confused. Men like to refer to stereo types and work from them. We are told that we need to be a hero and a tough guy, but then we are told we need to be in touch with our sensitive sides and be a modern man holding the baby.

Meanwhile the man down the street who treats his girlfriends mean, never calls, is rude and unhelpful and shows little respect appears to have a fan club developing. Life my friends is often unfair. Okay let us look at what is going on with this scenario.

Interest. Yes, interest. Bad guys are interesting, they do interesting things. They have strayed from the straight-and-narrow and are a law unto themselves. They do what they want. They go where they will and they answer to no one. They are interesting. Tow the line, do as you are told and you are dull. Mavericks are interesting, straight guys are not. Generally.

Bad Guys are a challenge, we all love a challenge. Women love a challenge just like guys. If something is a challenge the end results must surely be worthwhile? Of course and bad guys are a challenge. The girls who go after a bad guy want to keep them to themselves and will do a great deal to keep hold. The more you want them, the greater there is a chance they may walk away. Women love to feel good about themselves and getting their bad guy, at least for a while, satisfies that urge. This appeals to some people and the greater the danger of loosing a bad guy, the greater the effort to keep them. There may be a lesson there.

Bad guys are confident and self assured. They know what they are about and don' really care what others think. They are their own men and don't need others to prop them up. Some can become almost caricatures of themselves but that doesn't make them any less attractive. Bad guys don't have to be in shape, just look at James Galdofini from The Sopranos. Somewhat out of shape if Mr. Soprano doesn't mind me saying, but immensely attractive all the same.

What have we got if we combine these facets. Power, strength of character, confidence, a maverick nature and an immensely interesting personality. That equals sexy. Is it any wonder therefore that such types of guys often get the gals. It doesn't mean to say that we like them and it doesn't mean to say that this is fair or a good thing. But it can be natures way.

I am not in any way suggesting that we should all be Mr. Bad Guy. No not at all. What I am saying is that there are lessons to be learned here. What is attractive can be modified and added to our social arsenal of dating weaponry. It is first the way you perceive yourself that matters. If you can increase your confidence levels, get your career on the right tracks, excel in what you do and be your own man within the confines of your working life then this will boost your attractiveness. You don't need to go round being bad, but you can be a bit more deliberate in your actions, a little less available and a little more enigmatic. This will boost your interest factor and again help in your attractiveness.

The modern dating game is highly complex and courting rituals can be a minefield. Go back to basics and analyze within yourself what is it that you think partners like and how can you match of yourself to those qualities. Changing just a few small things could make the world of difference.

Striptease Songs

The visual caress of a well-executed striptease can turn almost any man into a light-headed, panting puddle on the floor. And that’s just the impersonal work of a stripper. Getting a girlfriend to agree to a personal erotic dance is one of life’s great pleasures. But if you think getting her to do it is tough, getting her to do it well is even harder. Sitting there while a girl self-consciously flails around can be the ultimate mood killer.
However, you can help by choosing the music. The right song can make all the difference in the world. Pick the wrong one and watch the clumsy fumbling begin, but pick the perfect one, and watch her lose herself in the music. With so much at stake, it’s only fair that we give you a few suggestions. We’ve dug deep too, going beyond clichés like Marvin Gaye’s “Sexual Healing” or strip club staples like “Leave Your Hat On.” Pick your favorite, dim the lights, sit back, and enjoy the show.

"Eyes Without a Face", Billy Idol
You wouldn’t think a sneering, wannabe punk rocker from the ‘80s could produce anything worthy of a spot on this list. But this 1984 power ballad is tailor-made for a deliberate, sensual striptease. It starts off slow, with Idol crooning about a long-lost love before the cooing of songstress Perri Lister, whispering the title of the song in French, joins him. That’s hot enough, but then the song starts to build up until a wall of trademark Idol guitars take it to the next level. Hopefully, your girl will follow suit and kick it up a notch too. Envision her swirling her hair or ripping her shirt open, then envision what you’ll do to her after she does that. Settle down, big guy.

"I'm a Slave 4 U", Britney Spears
Sure, she’s become a world-class train wreck and she has Federline’s stank all over her, but that doesn’t mean her handlers couldn’t write and produce a sexy song for her back in the day. This is basically an anthem for bad little girls, precisely the role you’ll be looking for her to play.
Behind a throbbing techno beat, everyone’s favorite little mouseketeer has a lyrical “coming out” party. She admits she’s young, but she also admits she can’t control herself and wants to give in to her urges -- perfect, inspiring instructions for a girl taking her clothes off in front of you.

"Cream", Prince
Of all cities in the world, it turns out that Minneapolis produced one of the most prolific and sexually charged artists in music history. That, of course, is Prince, and his body of work features songs like “Dirty Mind.” From that fertile mind comes this disco-esque romp that is sure to bring out her wild side.
Layered on top of porno-sounding guitar riffs are lyrics like “You got the horn so why don’t you blow it/You are filthy cute and baby you know it.” It definitely puts the “fun” in funky and is the perfect song if she is a bit hesitant to try this. Prince shamelessly enjoys himself while playing “Cream,” and this enjoyment is contagious.

"Justify My Love", Madonna
The Material Girl caused quite a commotion with this 1990 single. The saucy video was banned by MTV and she recorded remixes that used bible verses in conjunction with the explicit lyrics. The nerve! It was cowritten with Lenny Kravitz, whom Madonna admitted she was shagging at the time of the recording. Their sexual energy is evident, as jungle drums drive the rhythm and Madonna’s coquettish voice moans about “wanting and waiting.”
You’ll be “wanting and waiting” to do very nasty things to the girl who dances to this song for you. If she lets the red-hot song take her away, you’ll be all set to justify your lust.

"Sex (I’m a)", Lovage
Faith No More’s Mike Patton and DJ extraordinaire Dan the Automator collaborated on the relatively unknown 2001 release Music to Make Love to Your Old Lady By. But don’t let the deliberately cheesy title fool you; this great album is filled with legitimately sexy songs. The highlight is “Sex (I’m A),” a super-hot back-and-forth between Patton and nymphet Jennifer Charles of ‘90s pop group Elysian Fields. They sing of virgins, one-night stands and making love together -- the perfect recipe for a good time.
The throbbing beat will set the mood, but the overdubbed, orgasmic moans and groans will have both of you scrambling for the song to end so you can make your own little soundtrack.