One Night Stands

In our modern dating society, the term ‘one-night stand’ is used loosely. Millions of people are getting together for a one-time romp in the sack. I don’t know about you, but I’m a little confused as to what a one-night stand really is.

In my opinion, one-night stands occur when people meet for the first time, experience an instant sexual attraction, and in a few hours (or maybe at the end of the night) are having sex. After it’s done, they say ‘sayonara’ and never see or hear of each other again.

But when I talk to men and women and tell them I have never had a one-night stand, no one believes me. And usually, men and women have different takes on what a one-night stand really is.

One guy told me that a one-night stand is a fling. He said that a one-night stand occurs when you meet someone, have sex with them for a short period of time (in his case a few weeks), and then you split up and never talk to each other again. I told him that’s no one-night stand, because he talked to her after the fact and continued having sex with her for the next couple of weeks. In my book, that’s a full-out fling. A one-night stand is a one-time deal.

Let’s get it straight, a one-night stand is exactly what it states: one-night of sex with a relative stranger, and the next day you go your separate ways. Let’s not get it confused with a fling, where you have sex with someone repeatedly, even if you then cut it off and never see each other ever again.

The majority of single men and women I know have had at least one one-night stand in their lives. I do find this is more common with men than women. However, more women have likely had one-night stands than care to admit it. Meanwhile, men are often known to brag about their one-night affairs. Regardless, here are some tips and warnings about one-night stands.
Don’t Forget the Condoms
Bottom line: If you’re going to have a one-night stand, make sure you have condoms on hand, because you probably don’t want a cold shower to replace a night of drunken sex.

Check your one-night stand list
We all have our standards; in dating, the clothes we wear, and even with the food we eat.
So why not have standards when it comes to one-night stands? It’s wise to choose someone whose name you will have a hard time remembering, have nothing in common with, and who has the cash for their own cab fare.

Don’t give out your phone number
Imagine having sex with someone you barely even know, then asking for their number so you can “keep in touch”. Kind of late to be getting to know each other, don’t you think? Sure, we all want to be polite after a one-night stand, but let’s face it, it’s only out of courtesy. So forget it. Save the courtesy for your acquaintances and just leave without a phone number; your one-night stand has been accomplished.