Kinky Things She Loves (But Won't Tell You)

Him: Nothing?
Her: No. Nothing.
Him: How come? I touched it like you told me to.
Her: Well, what if you, um, bit it a little?
Him: You mean like this…?
Her: Ouch! Cut it out! Let’s just forget about it.

Hit a sexual slump? Don’t worry, it happens. It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you, per se; it just means that you probably need to work on spicing things up in the bedroom (or in the kitchen, or on the floor, or in the shower, or against the wall, or in the car, or in an elevator, or in the stairwell).
Most women need more than a “wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am” approach to sex. They need excitement, passion, heat, and… kink? Some women, however, may be unsure how to approach the subject, simply because “nice” girls aren’t supposed to like whips and chains. But you’d be surprised how many of them do!
Next time the two of you are lying in bed and you’re contemplating whether or not to fake a headache, try asking her if she might like “something different.” Here are seven kinky things your gal might be fantasizing about, but is probably too shy to tell you.
1- Stroke It
Masturbation is a healthy part of life, so why not share it with your partner? If you’re not too shy, put your guard down and let her watch as you get acquainted with yourself. The whole voyeurism element has a certain mystique that might appeal to her. The big perk for you is that after she watches you please yourself, she might get a few new ideas or tips on how she can improve the way she pleases you.
2- Fender Bender
Anal sex is a century-old position, but it tends to have a negative stigma attached to it. This might be why some couples have yet to venture into this unknown territory, and why some women might be a little shy when it comes to suggesting it. You can start slowly by spooning -- the position in which you both lie on your sides, so that her back is facing you. This is a very slow and intimate way of initiating anal sex. Once you’ve mastered this, you can graduate to full-fledged, passionate anal sex (you know, the kind you see in movies).
3- Tough Love
Is she a control freak? Then maybe she’d like to try a little S&M. This is the practice by which you become submissive and let her boss you around with a few props, such as whips and handcuffs. It might get a little painful at times, so before the hot-wax and nipple-pinching ritual begins, make sure you’ve established a code word, like “zebra” or “mac and cheese,” so she knows when to stop the torture (I mean, the titillating, sensual love-making). You may be wondering, “What’s in it for me?” Well, you get to help her live out a lifelong fantasy, and you make her feel happy and secure in your relationship in the process. Plus, you get to see her in a hot leather outfit.
4- Gadgets and Gizmos
Sex toys are a fun and exciting way to put some heat back in the bedroom. You can take baby steps and begin with heated and flavored massage oils, then try applying some orgasm-enhancing lubricant to her genitalia, and finally, you can use a vibrator on her.
Once you’re both feeling a little more adventurous, you can tackle the world of dildos and anal probes and beads. Use them on her, let her use them on you, take turns, or find a way to use them on each other at the same time. Regardless of how you do it, this bit of kink is sure to kick-start a heated sexual frenzy.
5- Curtain Call
If you dabbled in theater in high school, you now have the chance to star in your own show. Role-playing might be on her “Must Try” list of kinky fantasies. Map out interesting scenarios or pick real-life sexy couples to model yourselves after, then grab some fun costumes and let your imaginations guide you.
You might feel a little silly at first, but after a few “rehearsals,” you’ll probably start to like it. Some characters, like her French maid or your sultry Latin cabana boy, might start to make regular appearances in the bedroom. You might also like to tape this little production; you can watch it together afterward over some popcorn.
6- Shall We Dance?
It’s no secret that most guys would love to see their significant other do a private sexy dance for them. Some couples even go as far as to have poles installed in their bedrooms. But have you ever thought about how you would fare dancing with that pole? I bet she has.
Why not surprise her with a sexy little dance of your own? Throw on one of her favorite songs, and just go for it! Feel free to do a little practice dance in front of the mirror when you’re alone. And don’t worry about making a fool of yourself -- she’s likely to be so touched that you went through the trouble that she won’t even notice your two left feet.
7- Three’s A Crowd
For the more adventurous, thrill-seeking woman, adding someone new into the mix might be interesting. That’s right -- having a threesome isn’t only your fantasy. Some women have also entertained the idea. For those of you who are deterred by the idea of sharing your woman with another man, or just by the idea of being in bed with another man, don’t worry because another female fantasy that might come into play here is her desire to be with another woman.
Something important to note -- before you start running a list of her friends through your head as possible candidates -- is that threesomes might be dangerous for a relationship. So, make sure you discuss it thoroughly beforehand and you both understand what the boundaries and limits of this romp are.

Source: Askmen.com

Body And Mind - Sex And Stress

Have you ever wondered that the role of testosterone in enhancing libido and enhancing erections in men cannot be its only role? There are many other roles and biological effects of testosterone other than its known presence in bodily fluids. It has been blamed for excess hair loss (medical name-Androgenetic alopecia) although the molecular steps of hair loss in men and women are not fully understood.
This hormone is secreted in the testes of males and the ovaries of females, although men produce more of it. Various kinds of mental behavior are not only subject to influence by environment and genetics but also day-to-day hormonal changes. For example, stress can also inhibit testosterone synthesis and hence lead to decreased levels of it secretion.
Some goods news has recently emerged. Recent studies have shown that to keep stress at bay you should frequently engage in penetrative penal-vaginal sex. Unfortunately many people from all walks of life find that under stress, they do not have the desire to have sex and even creates undesirable side effects such as sexual dysfunction.
A brilliant study (Biological Psychology, volume 71, page 214) showed that sex but more preferably intercourse is much more effective in combating stress then other sexual activity such as masturbation. As intercourse is more linked with less blood pressure and less stress this cause’s better psychological and physiological function. Also orgasms for women during penile-vaginal intercourse are better for physiological behavior but not so much for orgasm during other sexual activities. As some of us are nervous about speaking in public or stage fright as its commonly called are being recommended to have sex (not on the stage of course) for the stress calming effect.
It is thought when a couple makes love the neurotransmitter oxytocin released relaxes the body and decreases blood pressure hence also preventing stress. Oxytocin is secreted by the brain and other organs including the ovaries and testes. It is believed that oxytocin is significantly decreased during the stress and infusion of the hormone relieves stress in animal models thereby suggesting a role in regulating some physiological responses to stress.
In the light of such elegant studies and lack of public stress programmes such as screening by government agencies aimed at improving recognition, treatment, and reducing stress and depression primary prevention has become necessary. As stress and depression has become a common disorder with serious many unwanted side effects both in men and women, penetrative penal-vaginal sex could be a primary stress prevention strategy.

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N. Singh, PhD. is the editor of http://www.eStressHelp.com. Please feel free to use this article with proper referencing and outgoing link.

Yoga And Sex

Kundalini Yoga-- This age old yoga practice is quite wary of other ancient religious practices for gaining elevated spiritual state. While most of the religious practices prefer ascetism and sexual abstinence as a way to uplift soul, Kundalini yoga considers carnal indulgence as a medium to increase self exploration. This practice of yoga lays great emphasis on leading a healthy sexual life.
Kundalini yoga suggests to “feel sex” instead of “merely performing sex.” According to this Yogic philosophy there could no better way to mutual exploration process than act of copulation. This yoga vehemently condemns the widespread connotation that sex is an impediment in attaining higher state of being.
Kundalini yoga practice is basically termed as fiery practice as it requires you to be very active. It doesn't help you in gaining increased level of sexual prowess but also contributes to your worldly success by providing you with required mental peace and energy. The concept of kundalini says that spinal sexual energy is potent enough to offer great mental strength and wisdom.
The energy associated with kundalini concept is said to be of most powerful kind that flows in an energy canal inside the body that is known as Shushumna. Along with it there exists an additional canal in men and women. In women this additional channel of energy is termed as “Pingala” while men possess “Ida” canal of energy.
The kudalini suggests male and his female partner to first attain equal level of energy before going for copulation. For that they are first directed to get indulged in various tantric yoga meditations and asanas that help them attain complete rejuvenation as well as higher level of being. And energy gained after undergoing these Tantric Yoga practices happens to be unmatchable. Equipped with incredible energy and elevated physical and mental state a couple could experience optimum sexual pleasure and mutual exploration.
The hallmark of kundalini Yoga lies in its philosophy of strong connection between carnal indulgence and spirituality. But many people find it too difficult to get accustomed with refraining from orgasm that is not a preferred kundalini practice. According to the concept avoiding orgasm could result in increased level of kundalini energy in the body.
Kundalini's way of masturbation results in great physical and mental relaxation. Like other yoga forms kundalini is also gaining world wide popularity. You can also opt for kundalini for above mentioned advantages, but I would suggest you to take up kundalini practices in consultation with an expert tantra yogi only.

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The author writes about a number of different topics. For more information on yoga visit http://www.therealyoga.com/ and also visit the article pages: http://www.therealyoga.com/what-is-yoga/ and http://www.therealyoga.com/your-body-and-yoga/